tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308981464139716859.post665247232233460027..comments2008-05-12T10:53:36.192-07:00MelADramatic Mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04100313047776018999noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308981464139716859.post-375796925291063872008-05-12T08:36:00.000-07:002008-05-12T08:36:00.000-07:00Ok, I really don't have any words of wisdom to offer since my husband closed our baby making factory a year or so after my daughter was born (snip snip). I just wanted to say that I agree with what Steph said. You probably will regret it more if you don't have another child (if that is what you really want). I also can relate about the 'flab". I complain a lot on my blog about being fat, but it really is just more out of shape. <BR/><BR/>Good luck with everything!Jen @ Daily Mish Mashhttp://dailymishmash.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308981464139716859.post-29258917066936833442008-05-11T17:16:00.000-07:002008-05-11T17:16:00.000-07:00So, so true about having 3. LOL. And mine are 7 years apart. (It takes me a while to forget labor & delivery, okay?) So, I have a teenager and a toddler. <BR/><BR/>I do not recommend this. However, the teenager and the 7 yo are excellent helpers. :DStephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14869966273313625550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308981464139716859.post-18257420313125914232008-05-11T13:57:00.000-07:002008-05-11T13:57:00.000-07:00okay, i got here from steph's site.<BR/>(i haven't yet read steph's comment, will do so after i type this and see what a dumbass i am.)<BR/><BR/>here's the thing. my husband was perfectly happy with 1 kid. he got his son. he was happy. i always wanted a shitload of kids. until i started having them... i mean, having 1 is easy. easy-peasy. that is, as having 1 compares to having 2. i have friends who have 1 kid, friends who have 2, and some with 3. the ones with 3 seem to be more easygoing than any of the others! i think, by the time you have 3, the first (at least) is old enough to 'help' with the other 2. if that makes sense. i have lots to say about this...<BR/><BR/>of course, if having a second is going to put you in the poor house... well that's a different story.<BR/><BR/>(btw, SO JEALOUS that you live in carlsbad. 'dems my old stompin grounds! i saw lacosta mom and i was like... umm, what could i possibly have in common with her?! turns out quite a bit.)Matter Of Fact Mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15153634579356074077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308981464139716859.post-72522029597728978942008-05-08T20:43:00.000-07:002008-05-08T20:43:00.000-07:00My vote? You will regret NOT having another one more than your husband will regret going ahead. I don't know either one of you terribly well, of course, so I'm just basing that guess on my own experience.Stephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14869966273313625550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308981464139716859.post-62744964720219109822008-05-08T11:54:00.000-07:002008-05-08T11:54:00.000-07:00My parents really want another grandbaby, especially my mom. She even suggested I accidentally on purpose get pregnant! But I stopped with the pill a few years ago. I was tired of being "on something" and figured birth control should be Hubby's responsibility for a change.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the insight. We did have a scare about 2 months ago and he didn't freak out so I at least know he wouldn't go on a bender at the news!One La Costa Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04100313047776018999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308981464139716859.post-89069454752851274932008-05-08T07:32:00.000-07:002008-05-08T07:32:00.000-07:00Hokay. So. Maybe a short version of our story will help.<BR/><BR/>I wanted another baby; Bill thought two kids were enough. (Money was an issue for us, too.)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, we agreed that oral contraceptives were the cheapest route, so I started the pill. And I was very bad at taking it daily. Was it on purpose consciously? No. Subconsciously? Probably.<BR/><BR/>Bill realized that to continue to have sex with me might mean we wound up with another kiddo, unless he took matters into his own hands. (Pun not intended.) He decided that if we had one, okay. If not, okay.<BR/><BR/>For two years, we tried without trying. (We weren't using any contraceptives, but we weren't charting and having scheduled sex, either.) Not even a scare.<BR/><BR/>Then, in February 2006, we found out I was pregnant. I miscarried at 11 weeks. Bill realized that he maybe DID want "just one more." As soon as I was cleared to go ahead with the trying, we tried again...pregnant first time out with Miss T. <BR/><BR/>I'm not saying this happens to every guy; I just thought it might help to know that sometimes, guys who seem indifferent can get un-indifferent (yeah, I made it up, so?) pretty damn quick.<BR/><BR/>As for the finances? I have no real advice there, but I will say this - you can get pretty creative about it when you really have to.<BR/><BR/>So much for keeping it short. Jeez.Stephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14869966273313625550noreply@blogger.com