Blog Etiquette

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Beth from I Should be Folding Laundry has an excellent, eloquent post on leaving comments when you make your blog rounds. It's very well put and I can't agree with her more (and yes, I did leave her a comment telling her so).

After poking around her site more I added her to my blogroll. And that got me thinking (SO dangerous): When I add a site to my blogroll should I tell the host? Is it tacky to do so?

When I do tell someone I've added them to my reader it's in a "hey, I like you and I want to know more" way and not a "tit for tat" way.

I don't want anyone to think I'm trying to capitalize on their fan base by making them link to me. I think every blog I read has been around for awhile and I can tell they've worked very hard to establish a core following.

I don't want them to think that because I've linked to them now they have to link back to me out of courtesy though I certainly wouldn't say no.

What if they stop by here and don't like me? I'm assuming if someone came here, thought I was full of crap and wanted nothing to do with me they'd say so and ask me to take their site off my list. Which I would do. I think.

For me, when I visit other blogs, their blogroll is an extension of them. Those other hosts are people they identify with, have a common bond with, the same sense of humor, taste in clothes, hatred of all things green or whatever.

My roll is the same. I wouldn't link to someone I don't "connect" with. And the hosts on my list are places I visit (or try to) every day. I feel it's another way for readers to get to know me. Like looking in my purse or underwear drawer. The things you surround yourself with are a reflection of you. IMHO.

So, if someone wanted me to remove them from their list, don't I have the right to say no because I still feel I have something in common with them and I want others to know that too?

Am I reading WAY too much into this?
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  1. Speaking only for myself, I appreciate it when someone tells me they've listed me in their blogroll. It's just nice to know, plus I then have the opportunity to reciprocate.

    So far, I've been lucky and the people linking to me are people I think are fabulous, so I have no issue reciprocating.

    I don't think a single blogger on the planet will asked to be removed from a blogroll, by the way. :grin:

  2. Blogger anxiety. It's more common than the doctors want you to know.

    My personal policy is to tell people when I like their blogs (you are a hoot) and to let them know when I link to them. I totally get the blog roll:underwear drawer analogy. So true.

    Thank you for visiting BloggedIn. Happy blogging!

  3. I've never been a hoot! I'm so excited. Thanks for dropping in Amy. I look forward to getting to know you guys.


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